“There are men out there that if given the chance, will treat you like queens but I bet some women will find that corny. Instead they want the guy that ends up breaking their hearts.”
“I agree with you on the idea that women find nice guys as the weaker link, realistically speaking there is nothing “hotter” than a good pursuit. Come on, a challenge is always more exciting. You know what I mean… that thrill of waiting by the phone to see if he’ll finally call after a week of waiting, the intrigue of whether or not he finds you to be irresistible, or after the first date wondering if he is dating others or if you are the only one in his life. It’s part of the game we all fall into and play at some point in our lives…”
I couldn’t help but comment on what can only be described as sensationalization. I can’t fathom that people really believe that women really want to get treated badly and that all nice guys are the weakest link. All this circles back to my previous blog about being inherently masochistic when it comes to love. I’d like to believe otherwise, but I digress…
As I mentioned on Lovewarblog.com, I feel that at the very core of this need for “Mr./Ms. Right” is that we are still looking for someone else to COMPLETE us, rather than being complete and whole all on our own. This notion that we need someone to complete us (Thanks, Jerry Maguire) is one of the biggest fallacies of interpersonal relationships. When you aren’t complete and whole, you wind up looking to someone else to fill that void you perceive in yourself. This is why we focus so much on what the other person is and what they are bringing to the table, instead of focusing on what WE are and what WE bring to the table.
Truth is, you’re never going to find that person, much less a theoretical “Mr./Ms. Right.” The only person that can complete you, is YOU. The good news is that when you are self-sustained, all the BS falls away. All the extrinsic qualities of a person become irrelevant. Then, and ONLY then, can you see yourself and everyone else for who they truly are.
You only attract what you are, people… YOU have to be Mr./Ms. Right by being intrinsically complete and whole. Then maybe Mr./Ms. Right will find you. 😉
Love and Blessings ❤
Love and Blessings ❤