Relationships are tough. It’s hard to keep the good ones, good. It’s a never-ending struggle. You have to work on it everyday. It’s like you’re working with a giant zipper that keeps coming down just a little everyday creating a divide between you and your partner. The idea is you have to keep pulling it back up faster than it can come back down. Otherwise, your wind up getting caught with your fly open and, more than likely, with your pants down. By then, it’s a lot harder to bridge the gap.
I believe that when you are in a relationship, you have to grow together and get to know each other every day. We are the sum of our experiences and are molded by them. We are growing and changing every day. It’s important to share these experiences and grow together, before you grow apart. It happens to a lot of people. Plugging away, day in and day out, until one day you get home and you realize there is a stranger in your bed.
What then? Do you save it? Or do you start over?
It could be argued that if you want a relationship to last you have to try to make it work one way or the other. Maybe that means putting up with something you normally wouldn’t accept, just to keep the peace. Like stinky feet or Friday night happy hour with the buddies (whatever the gets your knickers in a knot). So you bend… until you’re a pretzel. Deep down it still bothers you. So you hide it away inside, until one day… the pretzel breaks. Quite fragile aren’t they? But you want your relationship to last don’t you? (note: mild sarcasm) Something’s gotta give…But who ever said that the name of the game is, “Let’s see who can make the relationship last the longest!”?
Then again, is starting over a good idea? Go back out into the Dating world? I’m sure there are readers out there right now who are cringing at the thought. That dating phase is hard, isn’t it? Meeting your date’s “representative,” going though countless awful dates until you either find someone you can deal with (you may or may not wind up back in the previous scenario) – OR – Give up and join the clergy. Maybe you’ll get lucky, like really lucky. You find, Mr/s Right, Perfect, Prince/ss Charming, Dr. McDreamy… whatever it is you fantasize about, there he/she is. You found it. Now you can get married and live happily ever after right? Just like on TV!
So what do you say?
Is it better to …
A)Stick with the whack job you’ve got and try to make it work? or
B)Play the Florida Lottery? LOL Figuratively speaking of course.