My Ex-Boyfriend’s Wedding

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I walked my cheating ex-boyfriend‘s wife down the aisle and gave her away…. at least, that’s what happened in my dream.

Let me backtrack…

A few years ago, I dated a man who was essentially living a double life. I don’t know what else to call it. One where he was in a committed long-term relationship, shared a home, a life, a dog, sleepy Sundays and football with his family. The other, where he was a single philandering S.O.B.  He brought women to our house when I was at work, claimed that the hair bands on the bathroom door (and any other female paraphernalia) belonged to his sister as he complained about how he is such a “nice guy” who can’t seem to find someone.  He was a compulsive liar… a very convincing one at that. So much so, I’m convinced he’s a psychopath.

He was cheating on me. I wish I could tell you I didn’t know, but as women, we always know. We feel it. Guys aren’t as good at covering their tracks as they think they are.

Give it all to me…

Photo Credit: Dan Dangler

I don’t need to be teased.
Giving me just enough to appease.
Just good enough was never good enough for me.
Save it.
Small quantities do not satiate,
they frustrate
me.
Appetizer love leaves me hungry. Wanting more…
Save it.
Little scraps will not calm the beast.
I want to feast.
I want it all.
Anything else is nothing.
Nothing else will do.
Save it.

No Hard Feelings…

 

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Give me something, feasible, viable…. What is this plan of yours? Give me something tangible, something I can hold, something I can touch and touches me. Words remain for a fleeting moment and are carried away by the wind, as if the syllables had never been breathed from someone’s lips. A brief mental lapse. Give me something real so that I never have any doubt.

3 Reasons Why Great Women Stay in Bad Relationships

I’m sure you have a friend — awesome, successful, beautiful, got it goin’– (maybe it’s you) that is dating that guy you perceive as a loser, when clearly, she could totally do better. Maybe you’ve already told her and she KNOWS the guy is bad news… So what’s keeping her there?  Good news is, she’s not entirely bat shit crazy. Here are some reasons why she hasn’t pulled the plug on Mr. Sexo-DeadBeat.

 

Love & Dating: Isn’t it Ironic?

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I was reading a post today from my buddy David Berry titled “The Late 20’s Dating Disaster, which got some legitimate LOL’s out of me.

…After aggressively damaging the female population’s perception of men for the better part of five years, men start wondering why girls are so jaded towards them and, ironically, desperate to marry them. 

Lost in Translation

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I wrote this many years ago, circa 2007, a young ingenue exploring the differences in communication styles between men and women. I confess, I was drunk when I wrote this….

7 Reasons to Date Online

Whenever I tell people I date online, an apparent veil of incredulity washes over them as they invariably start to wonder “what’s wrong with her?” What’s a perfectly awesome, beautiful woman doing looking for love online? Oh, let me count the reasons!

Still Single? You Need to Get Rid of That Checklist!

Still Single? You Need to Get Rid of That Checklist!.

A brilliant post from Heart’s Desire International.

I just want to love you

An interesting question was asked in the T.R.U.E. Love Academy group — What is TRUE LOVE? Many things crossed my mind, like freedom and acceptance. I thought of true love as something you give without expecting to receive. Receiving is a beautiful bonus, no? Then it occurred to me that this must be why I find myself giving so much to the point of self-neglect. Amidst all the questions of what I could be doing wrong or right, one thing is clear to me: I want to love you, for who you are, just as you are. That would be the greatest gift to us all.

It’s all YOUR Fault! (Re: Why You’re Not Married)

Bottom line, y’all, if you are not in a relationship/marriage right now, it was completely your choice.  It’s not for me to say/judge whether it was a bad or good choice (nor do I intend to), but the choice ultimately was YOURS.  It always has been and always will be.